Secrets That Can Transform Your Marriage (3)
Secrets That Can Transform Your Marriage (3)
Last week, we saw how powerful the word “Thank you” is. This week, we will yet be receiving another secret that will enhance the transformation you desire in your marriage. It is learning to say, “I love you.’’
Saying, “I love you” over and again spices up your marriage. Words are powerful, and just like it is necessary for rain to fall over and again for farmers to reap a bountiful harvest, so also is it necessary to say “I love you” over and over again.
The relationship started off by the use of these three words and it should grow by its continuous use. The presumptuous claim that it’s not necessary to say it over and again because, “He or she should know I love him/her,” is wrong. The Bible points out the importance of voicing out what one believes in the heart (Romans 10:10). What you believe in your heart, you need to say with your mouth. No one can read minds and until thoughts are voiced out, they remain private.
These are just three short words; yet, by them, men and women come together to establish God’s counsel on the earth. Often, however, these words are forgotten after the excitement of the wedding ceremony is over.
Faith, the Bible tells us, comes by hearing. If faith, the all-important mountain mover, become ours by the simple act of hearing, imagine how many mountains will be moved out of your home when you say, “I love you” to your spouse often!
Someone once said the problem is that we say what we have, instead of what we want. If you want the oil in the home to dry up, confess the negative. That’s how God won man to Himself – while we were yet sinners, Christ died, thus saying, “I love you” to people who rejected His love. However, the day you decide to accept His love, is a day of the fulfilment of prophecy.
Husband and wife must learn to speak kind words to each other. Words create the atmosphere of a home relationship. Express to your mate the nice qualities you like in him or her. There must be a continued renewal of your love towards your spouse (Colossians 3:19; Ephesians 5:25-28).
Someone rightly said, “Action speaks louder than words.” There is a place for words, but there’s also a place for action. Lending a helping hand and being available, makes a difference in relationships. They are ways to say, “I care”. ’ Someone once said that it can be quite frustrating for a woman to do all the work in the house, while the man sits in front of the television enjoying a game of football, only to say to the tired woman, “I love you, dear”. She knows you love her, at least you’ve said so, but take a step and help her with the household chores. It adds zest to your words.
When a wife hears “I love you” from the husband, her countenance changes. She cannot hear it too much. My husband is never too tired to appreciate and say, “I love you” to me. Each time I hear that from my husband, I’m excited and on top throughout the day. It works!
Say the words before leaving for work and when you come home. Say, “I love you” before hanging up the phone or after a particularly inspiring conversation. Every marriage needs a daily dose of these three important words. “I love you” often is never a bad habit to cultivate. Even if we are upset with our spouse that day, saying “I love you” may help us forgive him or her.
Learn to say nice words to your family members. Husbands, it’s not wrong to say, “I love you” to your wife often.
If you are not born again, you are not yet a child of God and it will be impossible for you to benefit from what has just been discussed, as God is only committed to His own (Romans 10:9-10; John 1:12). But if you want to be born again and become a child of God now, why not say this simple prayer in faith: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).