Reviving Marital Relationship (4)
I welcome you to the concluding part of this month’s teaching series. We began this series in the first week of the month where I taught on how to build a strong expectation for your home, type of intimacy, and last week I taught on how to enhance intimacy with your spouse. This week, in continuation of our teaching series, I will be sharing with you on Spices for A Sweet Relationship.
It will interest you to know that God instituted marriage and intended every house to be a sweet and peaceful home. Most Christians dream of a sweet home, a place where joy, peace, prosperity and fruitfulness abound. But they are not ready to pay the price it takes for their dreams to find fulfilment. God does not have a hand in anyone’s failed marriage because His thought for us are thoughts of good and not of evil. His desire is that we experience heaven on earth.
I would like you to know that a successful home is possible, but it does not happen by chance; you must work towards it if you desire it. You must take responsibility for the reviving of your marital relationship. If you want your marriage to fulfil God’s will, you had better start doing what you are supposed to do as a child of God. God has given you brain so that you can let Him rest. The following are simple truths you can apply practically to your relationship and your marriage and your home shall take a new turn.
Appreciate the good in your spouse and family members, and then the bad will depreciate – Whatever good thing and strong point you can see in the life of your spouse, let it be a source of happiness and inspiration to you. Praise God for this aspect of his/her life, and then every other area where he/she does not measure up to will begin to disappear in your eyes.
Celebrate your spouse – Remember that other people are secretly wishing this same man or woman is their husband or wife. Guard that which you have jealously. Magnify your spouse in the face of the devil.
Sow joy – Remember that it is what you sow that you reap. If you sow excitement into the atmosphere in your home, you will reap joyful family members. You will be happy yourself and your home shall be full of joy.
Adapt to your spouse – Like what your spouse likes. Know his/her tastes and flow along with him/her. You will feel free and flow.
Maintain body contact always – This does not necessarily mean sex. Hug each other. Give kisses. Give your spouse a pat of encouragement. Don’t be ashamed to hold your spouse, especially in public. Be free, not of necessity, but as a lifestyle.
Create God (not good) climate around your home – A God climate will eventually produce good climate. Fill your home with Christian music, Christian books, Inspirational materials, Postals, etc. Let everything around your home spell God.
Organise Feasts – Learn to celebrate important days and events. Make it a habit to remember birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, etc. Make big events out of ordinary days. Use these occasions to get excited and rejoice with your family members. You don’t have to call people. Gather your wife and children and just celebrate with whatever thing you have.
Be one – Do things with your spouse. Pray together and do things in common. Let your children see oneness in you. A house divided against itself cannot stand. Communicate and know your spouse to be able to vouch for him/her when not there. It makes you happy.
Give no place to the spirit of unforgiveness – During a lifetime together, you will naturally make mistakes and offend each other. No human being is perfect. God’s Word calls upon us to forgive: Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye (Colossians 3:13). If you don’t forgive, you will not be forgiven. If your wife or husband offends or goes wrong somehow, correct immediately in love and forgive.
Be Contented – Contentment brings satisfaction. If you are not contented, you cannot be happy. Be satisfied with your husband, your wife, your children, your finances, your life and environment. Praise God, and you will be happy.
The journey to putting order in your home and relationship begins with new birth. You get born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready to be born again, please say this prayer of faith with me: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to you today as a sinner. Forgive me my sins. I believe you died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept you as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom in Jesus name. Amen.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).