Renewing Your Marital Relationship (4)
Renewing Your Marital Relationship (4)
We have come to the concluding part of this month’s teaching. In previous teachings, we learnt how to have good expectations and intimacy. Last week, we also looked at types of intimacy.
This week, I will be sharing with you on: Spices For A Sweet Relationship. It will interest you to know that God instituted marriage and intended every house to be sweet and peaceful. Most Christians dream of a home where joy, peace, prosperity and fruitfulness abound. But they are not ready to pay the price it takes, for their dreams to find fulfilment.
I would like you to know that a successful home is possible; but it does not happen by chance. You must programme it, if you desire it. You must take responsibility for the renewing of your marital relationship, because whatever you make or fail to make of it, is what it becomes. If you want your marriage to fulfill God’s will, you had better start doing what you are supposed to do as a child of God. God has given you brain, so that you can let Him rest. The following are simple truths you can apply practically to your relationship and marriage, so your home can take a new turn.
Appreciate the good in your spouse and children; then the bad will depreciate – Whatever good thing and strong point you can see in the life of your spouse, let it be a source of your happiness and inspiration. Praise God for this aspect of his/her life, and then every other area where your spouse does not measure up to expectation, will begin to disappear before you very eyes.
Celebrate your spouse – Remember that other people are secretly wishing this same man or woman is their husband or wife. Guard that which you have jealously. Magnify the virtues of your spouse to the devil.
Sow joy – Remember that it is what you sow that you reap. If you sow excitement into the atmosphere in your home, you will reap joyful family members. You will be happy yourself and your home shall be full of joy.
Adapt to your spouse – Like what your spouse likes. Know your spouse’s tastes and flow along with them. That way, you will feel free and get along well.
Maintain body contact always – This does not necessarily mean sex. Hug each other. Give little kisses. Give your spouse a peck of encouragement, especially in public. Don’t be ashamed to hold your spouse in public. Be free to display your affection for each other, not of necessity, but as a life-style.
Create godly (not good) climate around your home – A godly climate will eventually produce good climate. Fill your home with Christian music, Christian books, inspirational materials, etc. Let everything around your home smell God.
Organise Feasts – Learn to celebrate important days and events. Make it a habit to remember birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, etc. Make big events, out of ordinary days. Use these occasions to get excited and rejoice with your family members. You don’t have to call people. Gather your wife and children and just celebrate with whatever you have.
Be one – Do things in common. Communicate and pray together with your spouse. Let your children see oneness in you. A house divided against itself cannot stand. Know your spouse to the point where you can vouch for him/her when not there.
Give no place to the spirit of unforgiveness – Marriage partners will naturally make mistakes and offend each other. Nobody is perfect. God’s Word admonishes us to forgive: …Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye (Colossians 3:13). If you don’t forgive, you will not be forgiven. If your wife or husband offends or goes wrong somehow, correct him/her immediately in love, and forgive. Also forget.
Be Contented – Contentment brings satisfaction. If you are not contented, you cannot be happy. Be satisfied with your husband, your wife, your children, your finances, your life and environment and you will be happy.
The journey of ensuring order in your home, begins with new birth. You get born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, congratulations, you are born again and you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).