NO LONGER TWO BUT ONE (4)
It is wonderful to be able to share God’s Word with you once more in this column. So far, I have taught you the mystery of two becoming one, the mystery of two people becoming one life and the concept of oneness. Today, I shall be teaching on a subject which I titled, Not good to be alone.
Marriage is not a necessary evil; your perspectives of it make it what it is to you. God designed and programmed your marriage to work, but how you see it will determine whether it works for you or not. You must agree with God that when you enter into holy matrimony, you are stepping into a better way of life. Most couples lack this understanding, so they groan about marriage, instead of enjoying its covenant benefits. You shall not fail in Jesus’ name!
At the time of Creation, the Lord God emphasized the need that mankind has for companionship. Men and women are not created to live in isolation, but to live in relationship with each other. The Lord God said: It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him. …Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man (Genesis 2:18, 22).
To provide a suitable partner for the man, God created a woman from his rib, thereby highlighting the closeness of the relationship between the sexes, and providing a symbol of the one-flesh union that is created at marriage. Notice that it is God Himself who gave the woman Eve to Adam as if He is the father of the bride. The man is overjoyed with the woman, his God-given marriage partner. Adam recognizes the closeness of the relationship to his new wife, and describes her as, …Bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, for she was taken out of man (Genesis 2:23). By referring to bone and flesh Adam is showing that he understands that his wife is a part of him, that she is his flesh and blood, for she was taken out of him. Indeed, the true definition of a woman is one who is taken out of man. Adam then named her woman, signifying the role of the man as the head of the family. Later, after the fall, Adam named his wife Eve (Genesis 3:20), because she would become the mother of all the living.
Following the introduction of Eve to Adam, God laid down the principles that are to govern all future marriages. For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). The Scripture explains the reason for marriage: it is because of the fundamental unity between man and woman. God has created male and female to complement each other.
See this testimony:
“I had believed God for a wife because I was tired of loneliness. I was present at one of the Hosanna Nights, where the Bishop said we should write whatever represented a problem in our lives on a piece of paper and dance over it. I wrote that God should make me a husband before the end of that year. That night, I danced my way out of loneliness, and now I am married!”
– Adeniyi, D.
The woman is created to be a suitable partner for the man; she is created from the body of the man and is of the same flesh and bone as the man. The joining together of the male and female in marriage creates the fundamental unity of humanity. By joining together in sexual intercourse, husband and wife create a new life which is the natural fruit of their marriage union. It is God’s will that children are born into the family created by the one-flesh marriage union. Husband and wife, through the fruitfulness of their marriage union, become father and mother to the children born as a result of their one-flesh union. Both Jesus, in the gospels of Matthew and Mark, and the apostle Paul, in Ephesians 5:25–33, referred to Genesis 2:24 to explain the mystery of the one-flesh union created by marriage.
At the heart of marriage is the idea that a man leaves the family into which he was born and forms a new family with his wife. This point is of funda¬mental importance and needs to be clearly understood; marriage creates a new family as husband and wife leave the family of their parents and start a family home together. A man must let go of his parents, with the view to establishing his own home and family.
In order to cement this unity, the man leaves his father and mother so that he can give his full devotion to his wife. The husband and wife take their marriage vows in front of witnesses and make clear their intention to live together as a family for life. It is public knowledge that the man and woman are committed for life and are not available to others.
The word cleave is used in the older translations of the Bible and means to cling to or keep close to, implying loyalty and affection. Cleave suggests that marriage involves a partnership commitment to which the husband and wife must be loyal; the biblical concept suggests the idea of being super-glued together – bound inseparably by a commitment to a lifelong relationship
The power to fulfil your marital responsibility only comes from God. If you desire this power, you need to surrender your life to Christ if you are not born again. You can say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, I believe that You are the Son of God. You died for my sins and on the third day, You rose again from the dead that I might be liberated from the power of sin and death. I come to You today by faith upon your Word and repent of every sin in my life. Henceforth, I choose to follow after you Lord and uphold your righteousness. Thank You, Lord, for saving me.
Congratulations! You are now born again.
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Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family, Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).