NO LONGER TWO BUT ONE (3)
It is a new day for you. For the past two weeks I have showed you the mystery of two becoming one and ‘two people one life’. Today, I will show you: The concept of oneness.
At marriage, a man is united to his wife. Their unity is based upon vows to live together as husband and wife and to be faithful to each other, whatever the circumstances, until ‘death do us part’. Their vows are made in the presence of God, and He is the divine witness to the marriage. Husband and wife are, in fact, entering into a covenant relationship that cannot be broken, except by death, even when one partner proves unfaithful. In their heart and conscience, they know that the bond created by marriage is for life.
The marriage union provides the fullest expression of mutual loving companionship that human beings can experience in this world. The union created by marriage is not only physical but also an emotional and spiritual unity of profound dimensions, as a husband and wife become one flesh.
The importance of the concept of oneness in marriage cannot be over-emphasised. The Bible declares that it is good and pleasant for brethren to dwell together in unity (Psalm 133:1). If it is good for brethren to dwell together in unity, it is certainly more so for a couple to be united. When unity exists between a couple, tremendous powers is made available and the impossible becomes possible to them. The Word of God says: Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven (Matthew 18:19).
There is a fascinating story of the effect of oneness in Genesis 11:1-9. The people were one, and had one language. That means they were united. They purposed to build a tower and a city that would reach heaven. Because of their oneness, even though it looked like an impossible task, God Himself acknowledged possibility. The Word of God says: And the Lord said, Behold, the people is one, and they have all one language; and this they begin to do: and now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined to do (Genesis 11:6).
If a couple is truly merged in the spirit, soul and body, nothing will be impossible unto them. This is the force of unity at work. It is the original concept of God in marriage that couples enjoy the benefits of oneness. The concept of oneness teaches the believer so many lessons: firstly, if you are truly one with your spouse, you will treat him/her as yourself. The Word of God says: For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it… (Ephesians 5:29). If you, for any reason, hate your spouse, it is a sign that you are not united with him/her. The Word of God says: Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them… (Matthew 7:12). Whatever you cannot do to yourself, you will not do to your spouse. An understanding of this will chase away selfishness from your home and family.
Secondly, the concept of oneness will make it easy for a husband and a wife to share their bodies freely with each other. It will also make it possible to deprive their physical union of great degree of pleasure, which is their procreative power. If this concept is understood and followed, it will reduce the problem experienced in the home today.
A lady once said that man’s procreative power is only meant for childbearing. She could not accept that it is also to be enjoyed. All effort to make her understand this proved abortive. Shortly afterwards, she discovered that her misconception and attitude had driven her husband to start flirting with other women. Give no place to the devil (Ephesians 4:27).
Thirdly, the concept of oneness teaches that divorce is not part of God’s programme for the home. The husband in the home is likened to the head, while the wife is likened to the body. Even in the physical, you don’t separate the head from the body, or else it will result in death. …And they twain shall be one flesh… (Matthew 19:5-6). God’s concept is that you do not put asunder what God has joined together.
Jesus was teaching on the subject of divorce in Matthew 19:3-12. In verses 5-6, He particularly noted that no one should put asunder what God has joined together. That has an added implication that the couple should not put asunder what God has joined together as well.
The Pharisees were puzzled at Jesus’ stand on the subject of divorce. They could not reconcile that teaching with what Moses said. So, they asked Him to explain why Moses asked men to write a bill of divorcement, if they choose. The Word of God says: He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so (Matthew 19:8).
When the Pharisees challenged Jesus about the grounds for divorce, He took the opportunity to re-emphasise God’s plan for marriage. He pointed out that the divine blueprint for marriage was given at the time of Creation and quoted from Genesis 2:24, thereby reiterating its importance. Jesus said: …Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (Matthew 19:4–6).
The Lord’s presence in your home is the first step to peace. Allow Jesus to come into your heart now, and your story will change. Say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are born again and now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily; obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 or 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).