LOVE: FOUNDATION FOR A HEALTHY FAMILY RELATIONSHIP (3)
LOVE: FOUNDATION FOR A HEALTHY FAMILY RELATIONSHIP (3)
Peace and blessings in the precious Name of our Lord, Jesus Christ. I welcome you to another interesting edition of these teaching series. Last week, I started with some practical ways that a man can express love to his wife has a husband and function as a father, husband and spiritual head in his home.
We saw how that God’s love is unconditional and expressive and that the man is to love his wife and family members, not because of what they do or do not do, but because it was commanded and not optional; love is not real until it is expressed and demonstrated.
Today I shall be showing you the love role of the woman and the practical ways she can demonstrate her love to her husband and every member of the family in thoughts, words and actions.
The woman just like the man has roles to play in the home, if it must be successful. These roles can be categorized into three aspects:
- A WIFE
As a woman, your first assignment in the home is to your husband. It is your ministry to meet his emotional and psychological needs. What God did at creation, clearly reflects the position of the woman as a wife. She is not to lord over him, neither is she to be trodden upon, but she is to provide support and help to her husband (Genesis 2:21-24).
God expects that just as the Church is subject to Jesus, the woman should in turn be subject to her husband. When a woman allows her husband to fulfil his covenant role of headship, she has automatically given him room to play his messianic role over her.
Every wife should make her husband feel comfortable by continually showing him love through submission.
Woman, it is your responsibility to love, care, respect and honour your husband; you should also ensure to use words to exalt him thereby bringing out the king in him. The Bible says: A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones (Proverbs 12:4).
Another area is that wives should be submissive to her husband even as Christ commands, is in the area of giving him the reverence that he deserves as the head of the home. Ephesians 5:22 says: Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
- A MOTHER
The second dimension of the woman is being a mother. Motherhood is a call to be a homemaker; having the responsibility to take care of the House and everyone living in it. Someone said, a man can build a house but it takes a woman to make a home.
A mother is usually the foundation that a home is built upon. Her primary role as a mother is to provide a home firstly for her husband, in which to build a nest and start a family and then to provide the safe and secure environment in which her children can grow, flourish, develop their personalities, talent and then move out into the world where they proceed to blossom into manifesting their own potentials.
Mothers play a responsibility role in children’s education, health and complete well being. She also has the responsibility of cooking, taking care of the house and the children.
- A MINISTER
The woman in every home should have a praying ministry as the home maker of the family. She should ensure she prays for the well being of every member of the family. It has been said that women in the home has the ability to discern spiritual family matters faster than the man. Every woman should ensure she prays for her husband, her children and for peace in the home.
This has worked for me severally. When I tell my husband about a decision I intend to make and he says No, I don’t argue with him. All I do is to go on my knees and commit his decisions to God. Days or weeks after, I usually get a favourable response from him.
Therefore, I charge every woman to develop a walk with God on the altar of prayer so you can experience Heaven on earth in your home. I pray that grace to be an award winning wife, mother and a minister is released on you in Jesus name. Note that these three dimensions are to be expressed and demonstrated in love, so as to enjoy a healthy family relationship.
You cannot function fully in your three-fold capacity as a wife, mother and minister, without the help of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is only available to those who are born again – who have received Christ as Lord and Saviour of their life.
You can be a child of God by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as Lord and Saviour. If you have not asked Jesus to come into your life or may have neglected your initial love for Him, then you should say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today, teach me to love even has You loved us. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through email@example.com, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Building a Successful Home, Making Marriage Work both authored by me and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored) with Dr. David O. Oyedepo.