KEYS TO SUCCESSFUL FAMILY IV
On March 31, 2019, the world celebrated Mothers’ day. It set me thinking. Who truly are the real mothers? In this concluding segment of Family Matters for this month, we will be looking at what God’s Word has to say about the role of the mother in the home. One reason why God brought about the marital union of the man and woman was to bring forth godly seeds; and if we must have godly seeds, then we must have godly mothers. I always tell people that thieves have mothers who did not do a good job of caring for their children at the right time. I read an inscription once that says, “It is better to train a child than to repair an adult!” Children are like fresh fish, you can bend them anyway, but adults are like dry fish, any attempt to bend them will break them. A wise man once said that the greatest factory, where the most important product in the world is being made is the home. That is where children are raised.
Who then is a real mother? After the creation of woman, God rested. He was so satisfied after the creation of the woman that He ended His work. He was so convinced that He had put a seal of perfection on all His creation after she was made. Your presence as a woman therefore, whether a mother, or mother to be, you should know that your presence brings rest to the people around you.
COMFORT is a major characteristic mother must possess. Even God in His Word reveals this when He said, “As one whom his mother comforteth, so will I comfort you” (Isaiah .66:13). You can imagine the Almighty God comparing His comfort to that of a mother. That means a mother’s soothing touch and presence are meant to bring comfort, encouragement, relief, joy, rest, help and love to her family. In some homes where you can’t find rest, the mother of the home is the chief perpetrator of that discord. Mother, you are meant to be a peacemaker. In 2 Samuel 20:19, the Bible talks about a mother-in-Israel who saved a city by her wisdom and brought peace to the land. You, too, can bring peace, rest and comfort to your home, place of work and community.
A real mother is a SOLUTION PROVIDER. She is a blessing and not a burden to her family. At the wedding of Cana in John 2: 5, Mary, the mother of Jesus pointed the servants who lacked enough wine for the wedding to the solution. She said: Whatsoever he (Christ) saith unto you, do it. Someone said about Martin Luther (initiator of the Reformation), “Behind the monk who shook the world was the influence of a mother.” What will be said of you?
A child’s first TEACHER is his mother. There is a special link between a mother and the child she carried in her womb and breastfed at birth. This link gives the mother a unique position and ties with the child, which fathers don’t have and can be used as a point of contact to pray for the proper development of your child. Susannah Wesley mother of the well known Methodist preacher John Wesley, spent one hour each day praying for her 17 children. She took each child aside for a full hour every week, to discuss spiritual matters. No investment made over your child’s life is wasted. Your children of today are the leaders of tomorrow. Abraham Lincoln, one time President of the USA said, “All that I am, I owe to my angel mother.” Wouldn’t you desire to hear that being said of you?
There is an adage that says, “CHARITY begins at home”. A real mother will do well to initiate love in her home if it is lacking. Stretch out your heart spiritually and pray for others. Don’t let your prayers focus only on ‘me, myself and I.’ Stretch out your hands physically and give to others. Always look for an opportunity to be a blessing to others, because giving is living. Give to the needy and not just to your friends. Feed the hungry and your children will never be hungry. Whenever you give to the needy, you are doing it for God and He will surely repay you (Proverb19:17). Your children will learn these virtues form you and in addition, you will be sowing seeds into the life of your generation yet unborn. What you make happen for others, God will make happen for you.
Until Christ becomes the Lord of your life, He cannot in any way, give you all the grace it takes to be a real mother. Therefore, if Jesus is not yet your Lord why don’t you say this prayer with me with faith in your heart: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today.”
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Today, I see grace being imparted to you by all the knowledge you have acquired from this article. Your home shall never be the same again. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored