FAMILY SUCCESS, OCTOBER, 2017
I welcome you to this wonderful month. It shall deliver to you blessings, promotion, good health, and other things that you have been waiting for. This month, I shall be exposing “Home Breakers.” With this title, you might think it is about a lady or man that you feel is a threat to your home. However, most home breakers are attitudinal problems that have not been worked on.
While Jesus was talking about marriage and family in Matthew 19:6 He said: Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. There are things that break homes; they cause family stress, pains, quarrels, lack of peace, separation and sometimes divorce. Most of them are caused by man himself. A good knowledge of some of them will help to keep your family free from such things. This week, I shall be pointing to two of these home breakers – ANGER and BITTERNESS.
ANGER: It is defined as a strong feeling of annoyance and hostility. It is human to get angry at one point or the other, but it becomes inhuman when you allow the feeling to overwhelm you. God’s Word in Ephesians 4:26 says: Be angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath. This means that you may be angry but do not let it lead you into sin by nursing your grudge. Don’t let your day end still angry; get over it quickly. When you hold on to anger, you open the door to sin.
If you are not pleased about the way your spouse does certain things at certain times, instead of exploding and speaking cruel words which can cause irreparable damage, learn to control your emotions. Take a walk or go to the prayer closet, until your anger simmers down. Anger is like a kettle of boiling water and as long as the fire is on, the water will boil faster. To cool down the water, you need to turn off the source of fire and place the kettle on a surface. When this is done, the water that was formerly boiling will become cool enough to drink.
You can let off steam by discussing the issues at a right time or better still, pray to God about it. Tell God exactly how you feel, and allow Him to speak peace to you. Anger kills! A good example of this is found in Genesis 49:5, 7 which says: Simeon and Levi are brethren… cursed by their anger, for it was fierce and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel. Anger is a display of higher level of foolishness as stated in Ecclesiastes 7:9 which says: …Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools! It has the same consequences as murder (Matthew 5:22). If you are the type that gets angry unnecessarily and uncontrollably, you need to deal with it before it deals with you. Anger breaks home faster than fornication. Learn to control yourself!
BITTERNESS: This starts from very little things done by any member of your family that might have hurt you and you refuse to forgive and forget. Every time you remember the incidence, you are hurt. Watch it! That is the root of bitterness springing up gradually. It will eventually lead to trouble, if it is not nipped in the bud. Hebrews 12:15 says: Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up, trouble you and thereby many be defiled. Once bitterness gains access into your heart, it will magnify itself, begin to dominate you and you will be troubled. For instance, if you are bitter against your spouse, you will not even want to be seen with him/her.
Bitterness stems out of unforgiveness, which is a great blocker of the presence of God in your home. Anywhere God is not, there will always be chaos. Bitterness steals and frustrates the grace of God in your life. The Bible says: Let all bitterness… be put away from you, with all malice (Ephesians 4:3). To do this, you must forgive and forget completely past hurts, so that you can live a peaceful and burden-free life. The principle of instant forgiveness has helped me a great deal. My husband and I practise it and it has paid off. It pays to forgive!
If you have challenge in the area of anger and bitterness, you need grace and help from God and this will come faster when you are born- again. If you would like to be born again, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today acknowledging that I am a sinner who needs Your forgiveness. I believe You died for me and rose again on the third day. Forgive me my sins, wash me with Your Blood and write my name in the Lamb’s Book of life. Thank You Lord for saving me.”
Congratulations, you are now born-again! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now a child of God.He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).