You are welcome to another teaching time on your favourite column. This month, via the Word of God, I will be teaching on the series: Family Government! In this end-time when the devil is doing more wickedly, it is essential that the secrets that make for effective family, especially in the area of government, are discovered.
The family can be likened to an organisation involving two or more people having certain rules controlling it. Family affairs must be directed and controlled by the individuals involved, or else there will be chaos and lack of peace.
However, the individuals concerned have different roles and duties to carry out in order to ensure a smooth run of the family. The ignorance of these individuals’ roles is one of the reasons most families lack success and fulfilment. That is why I will be teaching on the various responsibilities and duties that are to be discharged by the individuals involved in the family government.
This week, I will like to begin by discussing The Responsibilities of the Man.
The man is the head and leader of the family. He can be likened to the “President” in his own family government. God’s Word says: For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church: and He is the Saviour of the body (Ephesians 5:23). As the head, just as most of the blessings of a successful leadership are first poured on you, so also, the blame and consequence of an unsuccessful leadership, will first and foremost be suffered by you.
God sees the man as the overall head of the family and will hold him responsible for anything that goes wrong in the family government. In Genesis 3:20, it was Adam who named his wife Eve; however, he failed in discharging his duties as the head and leader of his family. As a result, he suffered a dethronement (Genesis 2:23).
If your family fails, it is your fault; and you are the one who God will question. It was Adam whom God called upon, not Eve or the devil, even when God knew that it was the devil who deceived Eve! God has committed the government of your home into your hands; therefore, He holds you responsible.
One major key that guarantees successful leadership, as the head of your family is the key of LOVE (Ephesians 5:25, 27-33). Men, let me tell you one secret: no woman hates to be loved. When you demonstrate your love to your wife, you will be able to govern your house with ease. This love is demonstrated in words and actions, irrespective of the weaknesses of the other members of your family. Your love should provoke you to render honour to your wife.
God’s Word in 1 Peter 3:7 says: Likewise, ye husbands dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. Honour, in this sense, means caring and providing financially, and materially for her. Your role as the leader is not that of being selfish, maltreating, humiliating and beating your wife.
As a father to your children, you are responsible for their training in conjunction with your wife. Many men push this responsibility to their wives. It is supposed to be jointly done with you as the man playing the role of training your children to grow in the fear of the Lord like Jonadab did in Jeremiah 35:14, 18-19. You will definitely partake of whatever your child becomes in future; whether good or bad.
Therefore, your office as the head and leader in the family government, is not that of a ‘dictator’’ or ‘oppressor’ but that of living up to the responsibilities of loving and providing for the welfare of your family as commanded by God. You are the driver of the vehicle of your family and you occupy a strategic position that can influence and determine what the lives of all the other members of your family will be like. You must live up to this expectation, so that God will not regret making you the head of your home!
God is the Author of family; as such, your efforts outside His help will be ineffective. That is why you need to accept Him through His Son, Jesus Christ, and become born again. If you will like to be born again right now, please say this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”
If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, email@example.com; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).