COMMITTMENT TO YOUR SPOUSE (4)
COMMITTMENT TO YOUR SPOUSE (4)
May the peace of God be with you in Jesus name! There is no doubt you have been blessed by this subject of commitment ever since we started this month. Give God a chance by putting to work the things you are reading in this article. Our God is a God of liberation and second chance; He will give you a new beginning, if you let Him! Today, I shall be teaching on the subject: The Place of Voice and Action in Commitment to Your Spouse.
A commitment to love your spouse is not complete until you give voice and action to it. Men can never understand what these three simple words, “I love you” can do to a woman. That is why surprisingly, some men find it difficult to give voice to their commitment.
A man testified during one of our annual conventions that for a long time, he had found it extremely difficult to give voice to his commitment by expressing love to his wife. He obeyed the instruction to do so and things began to change positively in his home.
Expressing love to your legitimate wife or children should not be a difficult thing to do! For some who think it is an unrighteous thing to do, was Jesus unrighteous? Thrice He asked Peter if he loved Him. Remember that Jesus was never married, but His disciples represented His “earthly wife” in a figure. So in essence, He was saying to His “wife”, “I love you; do you love me?”
Don’t read this article without putting its content to work. Husbands, if you have not been giving voice to your commitment, it is time to get started. If you already have, there is still room for improvement. Learn to look straight into her eyes and tell her how much you love her and you will see the change in her countenance.
No matter how spiritual a woman is, she still wants to be told that she is loved. I can tell you this as a woman. I want to hear my husband give voice to his commitment by telling me how much he loves me, and he does! These are some of the things that hold our home together.
However, it is important as a woman that you put action to your commitment. The woman’s part also demands that she respects her husband. I am yet to find a man who hates to be respected! Lack of respect for the husband is what makes some men engage in physical combat with their wives (although this is not to justify such action). How some women address their husbands show they lack an understanding of family government as ordained by God.
Woman, respect is reciprocal; it is give-and-take. If you give respect, you will earn respect. For instance, some wives are too “modern” to greet their husbands. He wakes up in the morning, and she’s staring at him; no word of greetings. But she greets everyone else outside, with a smile for that matter. First, get committed to the success of your marriage and then you will get God committed to your affairs.
Praise your spouse for doing something well or for something you like about him or her. Everyone love to be praised, everyone loves nice things to be said to them. Remember, if you do not compliment your spouse, he or she might not feel appreciated. Appreciating little things creates greater things. Nothing should escape our praise; it motivates the beneficiary to go the extra mile.
While there is a place for words, there is also a place for action in expressing commitment to your spouse. Lending a helping hand, being available, all make a lot of difference in your relationship.
Someone once shared this testimony: “When the Bishop’s wife taught us the course Family Life at the Bible school, one would have thought she had secretly conducted a research on me, because every aspect of the lecture was directed at me. After the second day of the course, I got home to discover that my wife had to carry 20 crates of soft drinks down the road; at the same time trying to get dinner ready.
Unknown to her, I packed all the crates into my car and took them there for her. When I got home, my wife was at the door, excitedly singing and dancing as a result of my new behaviour. That was the service I needed to have rendered in my family. Since then, it has been joy and peace galore!”
Giving action to your commitment is very important to building a successful home. However, the most important thing is to have a relationship with Christ. Without this, every instruction here will be mere stories to you. You need to be born again! If you are not, you should say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).