COMMITMENT IN MARRIAGE (1)
FAMILY LIFE – JUNE 2018
COMMITMENT IN MARRIAGE (1)
I count it a great privilege and joy to bring God’s Word your way again today. All through this month, I will be sharing with you, certain factors that will enhance commitment in your marriage.
Marriage in actual sense involves the coming together of two individuals who have lived their entire lives only for themselves and understand that the success of their union is solely dependent on them. A genuine understanding of this is what brings commitment in marriage. Commitment entails being willing to do whatever it takes to make your marriage work.
Most marriages will last if both the man and woman will oblige to stay with each other. They must be committed to work out their differences, seek the best for the other, grow in love etc. This willingness to strongly commit yourself to the stability of your home is the principle that strengthens marriages.
However, you cannot stay committed to an individual without choosing first to be committed to God. Being strongly committed to maintaining a steady relationship with God helps your decision in being committed to your spouse. That is why, this week, I will be focusing on Commitment to God.
It is important that you to know that behind any successful relationship and marriage is commitment. It is a vital tool that holds marriage together. The level of your commitment to your relationship with your husband, wife or family members will ultimately determine how heavenly your home will be. First and foremost, for you to be committed to your husband, wife and family members, you must be committed to God. That will ensure the success of your commitment to your spouse.
The Word of God says, For every house is builded by some man; but he that built all things is God (Hebrews 3:4). That means all your efforts to build a heavenly home will amount to nothing without the help of God. God is really all you need to have all your needs met. Without God you can do nothing. That is, without commitment to God in your marriage, you cannot be committed to your spouse. The Word of God says, I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing (John 15:5).
In actual fact, any man or woman who is genuinely committed to God is bound to be committed to the success of his or her home, because he or she will endeavour to obey God. Let me say this to single men and women, before you marry any man or woman, ensure that he or she is genuinely committed to God, because if he or she is not, it will affect the success of the home.
I remember my husband (then my fiancé) writing a paper titled “Sailing Under Sealed Orders.” One thing that struck me most in that vow of commitment to God was the phrase, “Christ is either Lord of all or not Lord at all…” I rejoiced when I read it and even had to sign that I would allow him to serve God completely and unreservedly. That is why I am not surprised at his commitment to our home, because his commitment to God is unquestionable.
However, commitment to God must find expression in your commitment to your spouse and family members. Commitment to God and to your spouse is like a bicycle. Each wheel represents these two levels of commitments.
Commitment is what drives a man to love his wife despite how he feels or what she has done or failed to do. It is also a driving force in a woman that is submissive to her husband. Any man you see who finds it difficult to love his wife or makes excuses for not loving her is not committed to making that marriage work.
If you are a stubborn and naughty wife, who refuses to submit to her husband, your problem is simply lack of commitment! If you are committed to the success of your marriage, you will not need anyone to advise you; you will willingly and excitedly submit to your husband, and your husband will express his love for you.
A lady once wrote to me and said, “I started reading your articles in one of the daily newspapers after I got born-again in November 1998. I gained a lot from most of what you discussed in the articles. I am married with four children and used to do many things that were not right to my husband. But as soon as I read your articles, I made a change. Whenever I want to fight my husband, I remember your article on how to be patient with our husbands, and I stop. You have taught me a lot about marriage, so I don’t miss that newspaper.” It is time to get committed if you desire a heavenly home.
To be committed to God, the first thing you need do is to give your life to Christ that is where commitment begins from. If, peradventure, you are not born again and you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour, then say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored)