CLEAR PRINCIPLES FOR A BLISSFUL MARRIAGE (4)
CLEAR PRINCIPLES FOR A BLISSFUL MARRIAGE (4)
Last week, I showed you the duties of the husband in managing the home. Today, we will be looking at what God has to say about the woman, in relation to home management. As you connect to this truth, God’s purpose for your home will be accomplished in Jesus’ mighty name. The home is a very precious thing in the sight of the Lord. He has laid down principles in His Word for both the man and the woman to follow, if they must find joy and fulfillment in their home.
FOR THE WOMAN
Make Your Home A Loveable Place:
God created the home to be a unique place. The first home ever created was Eden and Eden means ‘delight’, ‘pleasure’ or ‘enjoyment’. It is a place with no substitute. The Bible describes this first home that the first couple, Adam and Eve had (the Garden of Eden) as having a river there, which symbolizes refreshing. From this, we can deduce that the home is meant to be a place of refreshing. The Word of God says, And my people shall dwell in a peaceable habitation, and in sure dwellings, and in quiet resting places (Isaiah 32:18). God’s original intent is for the home to be a place of peace and quietness. Quietness, not in the sense of silence but of rest. You will agree with me that to a large extent, a woman determines the atmosphere of the home. If the home is to experience order, then the woman has the responsibility to:
Hospitality means “cordial and generous reception of or disposition toward guests. Hospitality must be the rule of the game in your family. Always be ready to be a blessing to others, extend your hand to the needy, have an open heart and warm welcome to friends, relatives, especially strangers. Who knows, you may be entertaining angels unaware. The Bible says, Be not forgetful to entertain stranger: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares (Hebrews 13:2).
Ladies, mothers and women should take note of this. If you are irritable, untouchable or cannot accommodate people, or be a blessing to others in your home, you are not being hospitable. It can be seen in your actions, attitude and the way you address people. Your mere look at visitors can tell them if they are welcome or not. No matter how hospitable a man may be, if his wife is not hospitable, it will affect him negatively because the woman is the one people will always meet at home.
Abraham’s family is a very good example of a home of hospitality (Genesis 18:1-10). Hospitality terminated 26 years of barrenness in the life of Abraham and Sarah.
Feed the family with quality food:
The woman has the responsibility of preparing quality food for her household, not just waking up in the morning and dashing off to the office leaving everything for the house-help to do. That could be very risky. Proverbs 31 describes the virtuous woman as one that always ensures that the members of her household are adequately taken care of. It says, Who can find a virtuous woman she will do him good and not evil, she rises also while it yet night and giveth meat to her household (Proverbs 31:10,12,15). There is a popular adage that says, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” Woman, your family is what they eat. If they are healthy it can be practically traced to their eating habits.
It is not enough to feed members of family with food, you need to feed them right. Is the food they eat nutritious? Or do you give them just anything? Wisdom is profitable to direct (Ecclesiastes 10:10).
In this day and age of processed foods and snacks (fast food), please secure the health of your family by feeding them with good food. Remember, “garbage in, garbage out.” Eve fed her husband; unfortunately, she fed him with poison instead of life. What are you feeding your family with?
Be Financially Accountable:
Financial rest does not only come when you are a millionaire, it comes by being a good money manager. As a woman of the house, you must have a financial plan or else you are creating room for financial pain. A wise man once said, “Pain is a sign of disorder.” It follows that to experience financial pain is a sign of disorder in your spending. You can prioritize your spending and maximize your income. You don’t need to put yourself into such pain getting into debt.
Compliment your Husband
One other way to manage your home is by an often neglected key, and that is compliment. Every human being loves to be praised, either for what he has done or simply for who he is. The key is to locate the good qualities in your husband and members of your family and focus on them. Then, express your appreciation for those good qualities by the words of your mouth. Show appreciation for both small and great acts of kindness by your words and surprising little gifts that act as hobs in the love wheel of your family.
You need the help of God to do this assignment effectively. Giving your life to God through the Lord Jesus Christ, is the only way of getting the true help you desire to manage your home. So, if you are not yet born again, say this prayer with me: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through email@example.com, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).