Building A Solid Foundation for the Family (2)
You are welcome to another wonderful time in God’s presence. I thank God for the privilege to bring God’s Word to you this week on this column, Family Matters. My prayer for you today is that God’s purpose and plans for your wonderful family shall be established. Last week, I taught on relationship with God: the solid foundation for your family. Today, I shall be exploring a very vital tool that makes for a successful family, ‘Commitment’.
God instituted the family. The institution of the family is bigger than the individuals in the marriage. Therefore, the key to building a successful family is commitment to the institution of marriage rather than just to the persons in it.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24).
In essence, God is saying that a man shall leave his father and mother, and be committed to his wife as well as the institution of marriage, and then by virtue of that commitment, they become one flesh. Same goes for the wife. Husband, wife, how committed are you to your marriage and family? If you must enjoy family success, then commitment is a must!
What is Commitment?
The Oxford dictionary defines commitment as ‘an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action’. In other words, there are some things you cannot do by reason of your commitment. The Word of God says: All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient (1 Corinthians 6:12).
Commitment makes you choose the expedient above the lawful. It makes you forgo some things that you like or take pleasure in. Sometimes, rights and privileges that are lawfully yours may have to be forfeited in the interest of the family.
Commitment is the backbone of any successful relationship, marriage and the family inclusive. It is the adhesive that holds a marriage together. When commitment is lacking in the relationship between a husband and wife, the chances of that family surviving are very slim. What the spinal cord is to the body is what commitment is to marriage and the family. Without it, the body will be limp and paralyzed.
Families with great success potentials suffer severe set backs and failure as a result of lack of commitment. I once read the story of a twenty-five-year-old marriage that ended in separation due to a lack of commitment of both the husband and wife.
To enjoy a stable family, you must be committed both to the institution of marriage and to your spouse. The Word of God says: What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (Mark 10:9).
Even though God has joined you together, you must be committed to one another, so that nothing is allowed to put you asunder. The Word of God says: Marriage is honourable; that is, respectable. Marriage, as an institution established by God, is perfect, but the individuals in it are not. People change as they grow, but marriage is constant – It is an unchanging institution. To build a stable family, therefore, those in it must learn to honour marriage itself. This is the secret!
Young lady/man, before you agree to marry anyone, find out how committed he/she is to God, to you and the marriage as a whole. It is the level of his/her commitment to God that will determine how committed he/she will be to your marriage. Perhaps you married a man who was not committed to God, and now you are wondering why he is not committed to the family. He cannot be, because the foundation is faulty. He needs to get ‘sold out’ to God first! If you are not born again, there is no way you can be committed to God and your marriage. You need to give your life to Christ.
Being committed to your family begins with a relationship with God. This is by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready to be born again, please say this prayer of faith with me: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. I believe You died and rose on the third day for my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom in Jesus name, Amen.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).