BECOMING A ‘HELP MEET’ (5)
BECOMING A ‘HELP MEET’ (5)
We have been examining what it means to be a help meet and the various roles that are expected to be fulfilled in order to be an effective one. Today, I will be showing you some of the benefits you stand to gain in return.
God’s Word in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 says: Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Helping each other ensures a continuous flow of “good rewards”. These rewards cover every area of life and most of them are priceless. One of such rewards is Unity. When assistance is given on both sides, couples will be drawn closer. Even children will also benefit from this attitude and every trace of division, tension and discomfort will be absent.
Unity in itself will give birth to a higher level of intimacy, friendship and togetherness between the couple. When there is peace at home, there will be peace everywhere. No matter the pressure at work, school, market or anywhere else outside, you will not be weighed down because you know you have a shoulder to lean on at home. You have a suitable help at home, who will listen to you and encourage you enough to face the work again the next day. The thought of knowing that your success is your spouse’s concern is reassuring enough.
Another benefit of helping each other is a guaranteed Lifting. This means promotion and constant success in whatever you do. It means that your obedience to the Word of God makes you a ‘help meet’ to your spouse, which in turn exposes you to all kinds of blessings from God as written in Psalm 75:6-7: For promotion cometh neither from the east, nor from the west, nor from the south. But God is the judge: he putteth down one, and setteth up another.
So, the usual complaint of “nothing is working” is replaced with constant success, just by being a suitable help to your spouse. This is so, as your help will make your spouse constantly lift you up in prayers that are answered by God.
Rendering suitable assistance also blesses with Security. This is what the words “heat” and “warmth” mean. It means you will enjoy protection, safety and security that money cannot buy. Even in the natural world, a form of warmth is enjoyed when two people lie together; a kind of force is also achieved when you both work together at achieving a purpose and speed is gained. Much more is achieved in a shorter period of time.
The word “warmth” also means that genuine care for one another is experienced when you both become ‘help meet’ to each other. It is true that the head is very important, but a head without a body is equally useless. When the head and the body are in place, the beauty of the human anatomy will be clearly seen by all.
The benefits of being a help to your spouse are immeasurable. It is a cheap way of keeping your relationship, marriage, home and family peaceful. It is not too late to start being a ‘help meet’ by looking out for areas where your spouse needs such assistance and start rendering the same from a pure heart. You will find the love and peace in your relationship getting stronger and stronger by the day.
Here is a testimony from a sister that will further build you up in His Word:
“I married my husband by proxy and living together was very strenuous. God kept me there anyhow; but was not comfortable, as I suffered various hurts. I attended a seminar on Marital Bliss where the Bishop’s wife ministered. When it was time for prayers, she joined the prayers at my side. She prayed that all that had sustained hurts in their marriages should receive their healings. Tears welled up in my eyes.
From that very moment, I found myself thinking about my husband and I left relaxed. I could then call him ‘my husband’ without any inhibitions. Strangely, he also changed and started telling me that my food was delicious. Whenever he came home, he would buy something for me. This he had not done for over 15 to 16 years. Whenever I wanted to manage the soup, he says ‘No!’ and provides money for another. I give all the glory to God.”– Ajanaku, A.O.
That same way, I decree an end to every hurt in your relationship, home and family in Jesus’ name! Please say this prayer: Lord, grant me the grace to constantly surround my spouse with assistance, in Jesus’ name!
Grace is available when you accept Jesus Christ and become born again.This grace is made available, by accepting Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are ready to receive grace, please say this prayer of faith: Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now I know I am born again!
Congratulations! You are now born again! Allround rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name! Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org or08141320204, 07026385437.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).