A BLISSFUL HOME IS GOD’S PLAN FOR YOU – PT 3
Another major requirement for enjoying a blissful family is love. Someone once said, ‘Where there is love, there is life’. Love is not an optional thing; it is mandatory for life. The Bible says, ‘…He that loveth not his brother abideth in death’ (1 John 3:14). This scripture is telling us that the absence of love is a sure way for it to pass from life to death. The absence of love in a family is a sure way for a family to merely exist instead of enjoying unhindered bliss.
Until love is communicated among your family members, you may never taste fulfilment in the family. As a husband, your love for your wife must be expressed, because love is not love until it is expressed. The Bible says, ‘God so loved, He gave…’ (John 3:16). God gave His love expression and as children of God, you need to give your love expression.
Let the expression of love for your family emanate from your heart. When your heart is full of loving thoughts, it readily finds expression in the words you speak. If you think negatively about any member of your family, it will not take long for you to begin to speak negatively about that person. A man (or woman) who abuses his spouse is only saying what he (or she) has been thinking about that person over a period of time. So, change your thinking. Look for the good points in your spouse and stop focusing on the negative.
I want you to know that love is contagious. When a man loves his wife, not only will he win her submission, every other member of the family and even outsiders will respect you. Love has that effect. It goes beyond just one or two people. Choose to allow your family to be a blissful family by giving love expression.
‘I love you’: a three-word sentence, but that which has a lot of power in it. Most people find it easy to say, ‘I love you’ or ‘I like you’ to someone outside their homes. If you are that nice to someone outside your home, why not extend it to your family members. As a mother, every time I said, ‘I love you’ to my youngest daughter, she would give me a broad smile and run with joy, telling everyone in the house, ‘Mummy said she loves me’. Not only does it build security in her emotionally, but it also enables her to take correction from me because she knows I correct her out of love.
Learn to say nice words to your family members. Husbands, it’s not wrong to say I love you to your wife often. In the Bible, it is recorded that our Lord Jesus Christ said, ‘Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these others?’ (John 21:15). And again, He said, “… Do you really love me?” (John 21:16).
If Jesus was curious to hear His disciples declare their love, how much more will our family members.
You can communicate your love non-verbally. Sometimes, a touch speaks just as much as words. A touch can speak volumes of love. Why should family members find it difficult to give a friendly hug to one another, or hold one another’s hands? I’ll never forget an experience I had some years back. I was down physically and my husband went out one of those days and came back with a little beautifully wrapped gift, which he personally presented to me, expressing his love to me. Could you believe that that little act of love from him brought me health and I never needed any more medication? Many years have passed but I still keep that gift, well preserved till today.
There is no woman who hates to be loved. When you look at a dead man, all his physical senses are on hold. He can’t communicate whether through words, touch, sight, smell or taste. To keep your family alive and enjoy a blissful family, communication is important. Love needs to be present and expressed to keep the family alive. Let love find full expression in your family and you will begin to enjoy a blissful family. If others are down, you are the one to encourage them. God’s Word tells us, “The unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife (1 Corinthians 7:14).
As a family that is born again in Christ Jesus, begin to communicate love to the others and God’s grace will cause others to follow suit. Be the initiator. Abraham’s intercession for Sodom and Gomorrah saved his nephew Lot and his entire household (Genesis 18&19). God wants to save your entire household, and He will use you to do it. Receive God’s grace right now to fulfil this responsibility to your family.
Do you desire to be a vessel through whom God can touch the lives of other family members? Then you need to be one with Him. You can be one with God through new birth in Christ Jesus. You need to be born again. Why not say this prayer of faith with me: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the blissful God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through email@example.com, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).