A BLISSFUL HOME IS GOD’S PLAN FOR YOU – PT 2
It is possible to enjoy blissful family life. You just have to make God the centre of your heart and home. You have to be open to His words and follow His instructions. His Words, instructions or commandments are not grievous or burdensome (1 John 5:3).
It is an easy thing to do. God made man with a desire to please and follow His will (Scripture). The Lord Jesus came to make it easier for man to follow and obey the Word of God. ‘Come, all that labour … for my burden is light and my yoke is easy’ (Matt. 11:28). Instead of seeking to do things your way, doing them God’s way will give you cheaply the results you desire.
Because family life originated from the Lord, He must be the centre of your family life to keep it alive. Countless people are having a near death experience in their family life. Some had had many wives and still are dissatisfied. Others are separated, while some live a cat and dog life, wishing that someone would deliver them from it. Yet, there are some who are enjoying family life and making a success of it. This is not just by luck. Success is not by luck; you programme yourself for success.
As a born-again child of God, enjoying a blissful family is your birthright. It is God’s will and desire for you to enjoy an exciting marriage, an exciting home and family life. Apart from making God the centre of your family, the next thing you must understand is that family life is meant for bliss. It is meant for help, not hurt. The Bible says, ‘I will make him a help’ (Gen. 2:18). It further says, ‘Two are better than one’ (Eccl. 4:9).
Family life was created to help man and not hinder him; it is not meant to make life worse. If that is what you have been seeing in the lives and homes of others and maybe even yours, I declare to you that this is not what God desires for you. Whether you are the father, mother, husband, wife, child or relation, can you boldly say with sincerity from your heart that you are a help to others in the home? Or have you been a hindrance to the success of others in the home? Is it your policy at home to help family members? Or do you maintain a survival-of-the-fittest attitude?
In case someone has told you, ‘That’s how life is’, or ‘Just bear it’, or “Maybe that’s your lot in life”, refuse to accept it because that’s not what God has designed for you. Don’t accept less than what God has for you. Don’t allow the devil to cheat you into believing that a blissful family is not for you to enjoy. Your family can still stand out; your situation can still change. The breath of life can still find its way into your family if you will cooperate.
As a wife/mother, God put you besides that man, those children, so you can help them. As a husband/father, God put you besides that woman, children, so you can help them, be an example to them and bring them up the right way. It is not the teachers’ responsibility to train your children. Children, God put you in that family to be a blessing (Psa. 127:3). Are you a pleasure to your family or pain? If you are about getting married, are you ready to be a help to your mate? Or are you just looking for someone to service your needs? If you are not ready to be a help, watch it and retrace your steps.
To be a help transcends all areas of life. If one party is faltering, the other needs to lift him or her up. The Bible says, ‘If they fall, the one will lift up his fellow’ (Eccl. 4:10).
No matter how great your success, your connection or family members will also need to succeed too. If you ignore their progress, you may eventually be faced with mending their failures. No matter who that member of the family is, the grace of God is sufficient for you. It will enable you to be a helper.
Financially, you are also meant to be helpers in your family. Money seeks worshippers; refuse to be its convert. Some Christians go to church, sing together, lift up holy hands to God, but when it comes to money, that is their God which must not be touched. ‘Riches certainly make themselves wings they fly away as an eagle towards heaven’ (Prov. 23:4-5).
Read this testimony: ‘I am newly married and was touched on what you narrated about homes. Since then, through my application of knowledge gained, things have changed positively for me…” – Chidube, N.A. (Aba).
Money has brought division into many families. Don’t let it bring division into yours. Ensure that you are helpers of one another in this area. Hiding your money from one another is not the way to financial success. Be a financial help to one another. The humorous thing about money is that if you don’t know how to send it on an errand, it will send you and most likely on an evil one. If you have been defaulting, you can repent by saying this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the blissful God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through email@example.com, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).